There should be five terminals on your circuit opening relay - I'm only using four of them. Looking at male end of the plug, with the clip and three terminals along the bottom, I'm using bottom middle, two on the right and one on top left.
Wire colours are:
top left - brown
top right - green with a red trace
bottom right - blue with red bands/check marks - two wires out of the plug but only one used
bottom middle - black with red bands/check marks
The green with red trace comes out of the loom beside the ECU and I think is from the AFM - that's what my AW wiring diagram shows. Blue with red bands is 12v to the fuel pump but only once the AFM flap is open so if you stall etc the fuel pump stops.
I think it was the green that we didn't have connected originally and I was doing the same thing as you.