Chelles wrote:Random is exciting but often dissapointing, so I perfer the whole relastionsip thing. However I'm not one to talk ... I was married before I new about all this fancy sex stuff

I used to be such a nice girl.
I kept away from random for most of my life (have had two 5 year long relationships) partly because I'm such a nice boy - but after coming out of a real serious one, I tried my hand at (or should I say, I got jumped by) a bit of random - and I have to say, the unexpectedness and general experience surpassed almost any of my previous in-relationship experiences.
I've usually felt (without having tried the "random" thing) that its cool really getting to know someone, what works (and what doesn't) etc and basically getting it down to a fine art..... but then, nothing like trying to fit all of that learning etc into one long night of sin
I guess you can't really generalise - if it were up to me, I'd stick with in-relationship sex... but you can't knock a bit of harmless fun either. I guess it has to have happened very "naturally" to work well.